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6 Tips for Buying Valentine’s Lingerie For Your Lover

Chrystal Bougon

Posted on January 03 2017

plus-size-lingerieOk, friends. Valentine’s Day is on the same day every year, ya know!  February 14th is the big day and if you’re thinking about buying some lingerie for your lover, it’s time to start taking a peek in their closet to find their size. We REALLY want to help you buy the exact right size the first time so we can help you both to not be disappointed.

In case you are new to us, Curvy Girl Lingerie in San Jose is the first ever brick and mortar Plus Size Lingerie boutique in the U.S.  And, for those of you who are not in the Bay Area, we also ship all over the world. (Please give yourself 2 to 3 weeks if you are one of our international customers who want us to ship to you for Valentine’s Day.)

Buying the wrong size can be problematic and rarely leads to hot sex.  (Our plus size lingerie store link is here:  We want to help you have lots of hot sex!

Since men do not usually have much experience with women’s clothes and sizing, this is specifically written for men who want to buy lingerie for their wives, girlfriends, or lover. But, I hope this is helpful to any/all humans who want to buy lingerie for someone other than themselves because this shit is hard! But, obviously, we realize that this blog may be helpful for women and men buying lingerie for another person. We are always happy to help all of you and we welome you to give us a call at the shop so we can help you get it right the first time.  408-264-4227

Men tell me that women’s clothing and sizing is confusing for them. (I hear, ya! It’s confusing for us, too. Typically, when we have a new customer at our boutique, we tell our customers they can be anywhere from size 1x to 6x no matter what size they are.)  I swear lingerie designers live in an alternate universe. Sometimes I have no idea where they get their sizing guidelines.

When men come into my boutique they want to show us pictures cell phone pics of their lover, but sadly, we cannot tell much about her size by a cell phone picture. Here is some information that you can arm yourself to shop at our boutique and our online store so that we are more likely to get it correct the first time:

6 Tips for Buying Lingerie for Your Lover
1.  Pay attention to the colors she likes to wear. Look at her closet or pay attention to what you see her wear to work or out for fun dates with you. Are there colors you know she hates? There is likely a theme in her wardrobe. Does she like neutrals? Does she wear yellows or oranges? Do you see her wearing a lot of reds or purples? Pay a bit of attention so you know what to not to buy. I am sure there are some colors she hates and some colors she loves.

2. Do some snooping. Without looking to creepy, look in her underwear drawer and see if you can see if there is a theme of sizes in there. (We all have several sizes of everything. Women’s clothes are random like that.) So see if  you see a bunch of one size or check the one’s she put away recently as those are the one’s she is wearing the most often or most recently.

3. Do some more snooping.  While you’re in her underwear drawer, see if she prefers thongs, g-strings or booty shorts/boy shorts? You can certainly try to buy her something new and different, but be sure you are thinking of her, too.  Not just what you want to see her in.

4. Check her dress size and pants size.  This is what is really going to help you figure out what size to buy her when it comes to lingerie. If you can write all of those down or put them in your cell phone, you will have them everywhere you go. So when you want to buy her something nice, you will have her sizes all ready to go. If you’re looking for help from us, these are what we are going to ask you. What dress size, pant size and blouse size does she normally buy?  (And, again, look at the stuff you see her wearing most recently.)

5. Please find out her bra size, too.  So, gentlemen, when it comes to bra sizes, we need her band size and cup size.  Both pieces of information are important. The band sizes is the measurement around her rib cage and will help us to figure out which size lingerie to put her in.  The cup size also will help us if she is between sizes. For example, if she is a D cup or a DD cup then we can recommend the size that will fit her breasts.

6. How tall is she?  If you can also have a good idea for how tall she is, that can also help us to guide you. Is she 4’11” or is she 5’10”?  You don’t have to be specific, but a general idea is very helpful. This can rule out a few styles so we can get closer to that perfect piece to make your Valentine’s Day extra special and extra hot.  And, not having to make a return or exchange is much much sexier for everyone involved.
Feel free to call us at the boutique with your questions if you are shopping online. We can also take your order over the phone.   Tel: 408-264-4227

Here is the link to our ONLINE store and we to ship our plus size lingerie all over the world.  Shipping is $0 – 14 anywhere in the U.S. no matter how many items you buy. We also have romance toys on our website, too.  Here is our site address  (We do also ship all over the world.

And, I know this will sound self-serving, but do not wait until the last minute of your special girl is plus size. There are so few places for us to shop and this time of year, they sizes and styles go quickly.  We do sell gift certificates and have lots of other fun stuff if the lingerie still intimidates you, but the more time we have the better.

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